Reproof to those who unnecessarily throw themselves to live in families that are prayerless

           Use First.  What we have said of family prayer gives reproof to those Christians who needlessly, and upon choice, throw themselves upon such families where the worship of God is not set up.  Dost thou know whither thou goest?  Thou art running with Jo­nah from the presence of the Lord, and mayest expect a storm to be sent after thee.  Haply thou art a serv­ant, who once didst live in a godly family, where thou hadst many sweet privileges and spiritual advantages —a table spread every day for thy soul as oft as for thy body, besides some exceedings now and then of extra­ordinary duties—and thereby didst enjoy a kind of heaven upon earth; but, for a little ease in thy work, or gain in thy wages, thou hast made this unhappy change, to put thyself under the roof of those who will sooner learn thee to curse and swear than to pray; and where, by the orders kept in the family, thou canst not know a Lord's‑day from a week-day, or whether there be such a thing as religious worship and invocation due to thy Maker or no.  Alas, poor crea­ture!  What! wert thou even now in so green a pas­ture, and now wandering upon the barren heath, where nothing is to be got for thy precious soul? —where, as on the mountains of Gilboa, none of those heavenly dews fall with which thy soul was wont to be wet and watered?  Truly thou art gone out of God’s blessing into the warm sun.  Had God, indeed, cast thee by a necessary providence on such a place, thou mightest then have hoped to keep thy spiritual plight, though wanting thy former repast; but, being thy own choice, it is to be feared thou wilt soon pine and languish in thy spiritual state.  Leanness is like to shrivel up thy soul, while thou hast thy fat morsels in thy mouth.  Thy spirit will grow light and poor, though thy purse may grow heavy.  We shall have thee ere long complain, as Naomi, that thou ‘wentest out full, but comest home empty.’  How darest thou choose to dwell where God himself doth not by his gracious presence? He inhabits the praises of his people, and takes his abode in the house of prayer. And if the Holy Spirit dwells not, walks and breathes not in the house, it must needs be haunted with the evil one.  Make thy stay there as short as may be. Leave the dead to dwell with the dead, atheist with atheist; thy safety will be to get among better com­pany.  Is the church so barren of godly families, that no such are to be found who will open their door to let thee in?  Go inquire where such live, and offer to do the meanest office in that house, where thou may­est enjoy thy former privileges for thy soul, rather than stay where thou art.  The very beasts groan to serve the wicked, whereas holy angels themselves dis­dain not to minister unto the saints.

           But haply thou wilt say, it is not thy choice, but necessity.  Thou art by thy parents put apprentice to a master that is wicked, or thou livest under thy own parents’ shadow, and thou canst not help it though they be profane; or with a husband whom thou didst hope, at thy choice of him, would prove a help meet to thy soul, but thou findest it otherwise; what would you have us in this case do?

1. Mourn under it as thy great affliction.  Thus David did when he lived in Saul’s wicked family, whose court and family, for irreligion and profane­ness, he compareth to the barbarous Arabians and profane Ishmaelites, lamenting he was cooped up with such, whom, by his relation, he could not well leave, and for their wickedness he could worse bear. ‘Woe is me that I sojourn in Meshech, and dwell in the tents of Kedar.’
2. Be the more in thy secret communion with God.  If thou didst live with a niggard^[1]who pinched thee for thy belly, wouldst thou not, though thou hadst but a penny in thy purse, lay it out for bread rather than starve?  Thou hadst need have a bit the more in a corner because thou art cut short of thy daily bread in the family.  Thy soul cannot live with­out communion with God.  Take that thyself which others will not be so kind to allow thee; and, that thou mayest do this, husband all thy ends of time the better.  Thou shalt thus, by God’s blessing, (1.) Keep thy spiritual life and vigour; (2.) Be antidoted against the infection of that profane air thou breathest in; and, (3.) Have a vent to ease thy incumbered spirit of those griefs, reproaches, and trials thou canst not but meet with from such relations.  Gracious Hannah had an adversary in the same family—Peninnah by name —who provoked her sorely, even to make her fret; but this sent her to God in prayer, and there she eased her soul of her burden.
3. Adorn thy piety to God by faithful perform­ance of thy duty to thy relations, though they be not so good as thou desirest.  Art thou a servant and thy master profane?  Be thou submissive and humble, diligent and faithful.  Let him see that thou darest not rob him of thy time by sloth, or wrong him in his estate by falseness—though he be a thief to thy soul by not providing for it—but dost, with thy utmost skill and strength, endeavour to discharge thy trust to him.  We see too oft that the unfaithfulness and neg­ligence of some professing servants, do set their car­nal masters further off from the worship of God than before they were; yea, make them loathe the duties of religion, which otherwise they might have been won unto, till at last they come to think all profession and forwardness in the duties of piety towards God, to be but a hypocritical cloak to cover some unfaithfulness to men, and to say of their servants when they beg leave to go to a sermon, and wait on God in his ordin­ances, as Pharaoh of the Israelites, ‘Ye are idle, ye are idle: therefore ye say, Let us go and do sacrifice to the Lord,’ Ex. 5:17.  Thus, as the apostle tells us, the name of God and his doctrine comes to be blasphemed by the ill behaviour of professing servants, I Tim. 6:1.

           Again, art thou a wife, and thy husband carnal, who lives without any care of his own soul, or those under his roof? Pray the more for him because he prays not with thee.  Pray thou for thy family in thy closet, though he neglects it in the house.  But, with this, be sure to commend thy piety to thy husband’s conscience, and make it as legible as may be to his eye, by thy meekness of wisdom in thy carriage to him, and whole conversation in thy family.  A fair print invites to read the book.  Religion fairly printed in thy meek and dutiful behaviour to him, and dis­cretion in all thy affairs, how knowest thou but it may in time win him to the consideration of the excellency of religion, which makes thee so officious and faithful to him? He is an unwise angler that scares the fish he desires to take; and she an unwise Christian that, by her peevish and undutiful carriage, offends her hus­band, whose conversion she desires and prays for